The Broken Hearted Man

I am officially according to my mother about to be left on the shelf. To her at 26 I should not only be married but also continuing the family line. While as a rule when conversations with my mother relating to marriage comes up, I suddenly remember I have something else to do, recent changes relationship wise in my family has prompted me to if not seek marriage, at least have some poor guy on lockdown.

Unfortunately that is where my trouble begins, because I have found in Nigeria a new breed, a species that I only heard about in the western world. One I suspect is only in Nigeria as a new tactic in getting something other than a relationship,…… it’s the broken hearted man.

Yes I said it, men do get broken hearted, but while I have always known this to be the case, this is the first time, I ever heard of one who was so hurt by the breakdown of a relationship, they cannot phantom being in another one. Now, I’m a sensible type of girl, I understand that romance is key in many relationships, but don’t get over reliant on it and base your relationship on it. I know relationships break and sometime there is nothing either party can do about it, but the idea that one heartbreak destroys the prospect of getting into another relationship forever, that I am not sensible about.

As a rule, these are not issues I would mention, after all one instance is not the norm, but in this case, it seems to be. The particular man that I speak about is the third in as many men I have spoken to about relationships (No, I’m not stalking or hunting them down, yet) that it seems has been so scarred by the pangs of love they cannot see themselves ever getting married. One in fact told me that the scars love has left on him, has made him not seek love, instead seek lust. Ummm.

A likely excuse to get up to no good I say, but while one might mock, this new found sensitivity in men, I do have to ask the question have women’s power gotten to be so great that men cannot recover from our presence, or are men just finding a new way to get the milk without buying the cow? After all what is more alluring than a man who is so sensitive he can truly falls so deeply in love.