A Story in 2 Parts

Quite unexpectedly today, as I was reading online papers and magazines, I found 2 stories that fascinate me regarding Men and Women, and since I’m not one to pass up a good thing, tell me what you think about them. You can find the full story on http://adunola.blogspot.com

One is a guide that has been put together by Debretts (a chi chi etiquette and culture guide) described as the Guide for the Modern Gentleman…… does such a thing exist?

Debretts goes into the nitty gritty of what you should and should not do on a date, what you should and should not do to attract a woman etc. Check out below what they say and if you agree to it.

The second story is of a woman who has had the baby of her ex boyfriend, but has not let him know that he’s a father, and is worried about future repercussions, what advice would you give such a woman I wonder?

Debretts Guide for the Modern Gentleman

A new guide has been published giving an all-in-one guide to romance, from the first act of chivalry right through to the wedding day.
The Debrett's Guide for the Modern Gentleman gives you everything from what to say and how to say it, to making your move.
Never mind equal opportunities, old-fashioned chivalry is still alive and well and much appreciated by the fairer sex when making that all important first move.
Holding the door and being prepared to pay for the meal are a given. Giving up your seat isn't necessary for those looking for love - unless you are trying to attract a pregnant or elderly lady. Be warned though; be absolutely certain the woman is pregnant before shooting up out of your seat. These things can easily backfire.
Conversation should be a fine balance between talking and listening, and avoid talking about the three principal passions killers: money, illness or death.
First date rules include drinks or lunch, that way having to avoid wasting an evening if you hate each other. Try to compliment her and come the end, if all's gone well, try to kiss her. Don't try to get her into bed (unless that's what she wants).
For those dating with children, advanced warning that the little darlings are coming along is vital, and never ignore your kids or choose solely adult activities to impress your target.
Blind dates should be avoided, but if you find yourself set up, stick around for at least two drinks. An early departure is "humiliating and ungentlemanly".
If dating online, don't fall into the temptation of trying to be funny with your profile picture. Use a flattering one, but make sure it is realistic.
Remember, chat up lines are no substitute for eye contact and good humour.
Flowers make a splendid present, but there are pitfalls. Mixed bouquets can look cheap if not a decent size and well arranged, and bulk up the flowers with greenery. Never buy a cheap arrangement online or from a supermarket or garage, and avoid the "kiss of death" - a bunch of carnations or chrysanthemums.
As for underwear, ask for help and always, always buy what she likes and not your fantasy. Rubber and holes may be the stuff of your dreams, but it's also the quickest way to end a budding romance.
In the bedroom make sure your sheets are clean, underwear is removed from the floor and top-shelf magazines stashed away from view. Stick on some Sexual Healing by Marvin Gaye. Relax (but not too much, you might nod off) and take your time.
So, all is going well and it's time to propose. Timing, location and confidence are all things you should prepare. Get down on one knee, she'll love it (and if a look of horror spreads over her face you can always pretend you're tying a shoelace).
And when it comes to choosing a diamond ring, remember the four Cs - carat, clarity, colour and cut.
If disaster strikes remember to keep your dignity and never grovel, lose your temper or try to change her mind.

Lifeclass: do fathers have the right to know about their children?

I think I am really making a mess of managing things for my baby boy. When I fell pregnant by an ex-boyfriend, I decided I was not going to tell the father, as I thought no good would come of it. He wouldn't have been pleased about the pregnancy, and he already has a daughter from a previous relationship.
But now I am not sure what to do. I could phone up my baby's father and come clean, but I wonder if this is necessary. Would my child have just as happy a childhood without a father in his life? He has so many people who love him already; does he even need a father?
I am not sure that my ex would want to know anything about it, so would my son one day feel crushed because he had been rejected? He is five months old, by the way. I really don't want to make that telephone call. I'm afraid that the fallout would take months to settle down. What should I do?