TJ has Aids

DISCLAIMER - This is a story and an education I don't have HIV or AIDS, I feel I need to say this because of Naija mentality.

Tj has AIDS I could not believe it when I heard it.

Tj my friend, my sometimes lover has AIDS.

How did this happen how could this smart, gorgeous man be infected with this deadly disease, I mean how could he not have caught it at HIV stage what went wrong.

As these questions raced through my mind I was struck by the fact that of the last 4 years of friendship with Tj , 2 years of which we have been lovers, he had told me nothing.

Tj and I met by chance when during a friends' wedding we had both run outside to escape the overwhelming bile that rose in our throats when the bride and groom started miming love songs to themselves, in between the mo gbo month ya's, the caterers and wedding show off's Tj and I connected.

It was odd we both ran out of the hall together almost colliding saying sorry together and started laughing in what seemed to be seconds after meeting.

For what seemed like a lifetime we stood outside bumming ciggies and stories from each other.

We had mutual friends and family friends in common.

We had a love of books and movies but hated false sentimentality and this was where we bonded.

While the wedding for all the co singing ended after 6 months, our friendship developed.

After a while it became the norm to see us together a tall, dark skinned (like expresso on chocolate) handsome man with the most beautiful hazel eyes you could ever dream of and me a slightly below averaged height, plump girl on heels going to events, laughing and generally having fun together.

We were the must have couple because so long as we had each other we had fun.

So when we started sleeping together it seemed normal, and we had fun doing this, as our inter connectedness continued to the bed.

So for Tj to have AIDS had to be wrong except he told me himself.

It seems he had found out he was HIV+ 3 years ago but he felt complete with me and felt that everything would be alright.
He did not feel he should tell me because it would never be a problem and when we had the test and it said we were both clear he lied because we were so busy so I never asked to see the results, I trusted my friend.

Now I wait for my results reminiscing about our time together and knowing that even if by the slimmest chance my test is clear I have to face this testing for the next 2 years to make sure I am not infected.

I trusted my friend and now I have to face and live with my decision.

For Desmond and Shola I did promise something in support even if it is a little late.